Just like each coffee is different, each of our kids is different and should be treated independently special. I’m sure there will be many posts on the differences in my kids, but I will start with this one that focuses on giving them a special night to feel unique. Growing up in a family with just a brother, one of my biggest fears as a mom of four is making sure that each of my four kids feels special. It’s so easy to slip into treating them all the same and doing things as a group when you have four kids so close in age. This is especially true for the twins. My husband and I started with making sure we did separate bedtime with all of them. Separate books, separate songs, separate prayers, separate chats. This was a great start, but it didn’t seem like enough. So, we started doing special nights. One night a week, each of the kids gets to stay up late with just Mommy and Daddy. Selah’s special night is Sunday, Malachi’s special night is Monday, and Aliza’s special night is Tuesday. Lydia’s will be Wednesday, but she’s not quite old enough yet.
These special nights are pretty simple. Everyone else gets put to bed their typical ways, and the child with the special night gets to stay up an extra 20-30 minutes by themselves with Mommy and Daddy. There is only one rule: no technology. Our kids have picked many different activities. Their favorites are games and puzzles. It’s a challenge some nights to summon up the energy for these special nights, but the smiles on their faces make it all worth it. They’re so happy to have that special time with us and we are seeing really positive results! For anyone worried about their kids feeling special in a big family, start small with special nights. I really believe that you’ll be glad you did!